I guess I have already spoken about it many a time.
Somewhere, love is both a feeling and an emotion. Though now we have made it commercial — yes, commercial — and even a conscious choice. When people build a relationship, love does become a binding agreement and an essential part of that bond.
But over the period of time, I have seen people who enter into a relationship where plastic life becomes their primary binding agent. And if at all there is space left, then love comes.
Isn’t it funny?
Even I have seen people together for ages without loving each other, still holding out a relationship. And here, society pressure, or maybe “log kya kahenge” (what will people say), becomes their important binding factor.
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What Actually Binds Us
Sometimes people have told me this sounds philosophical when I say love matters and nothing else. Though love has to accompany respect.
And then I feel life becomes a little easier to understand. Many times, even understanding people becomes easier when you start valuing love and respecting others for who they are, what they do, and what decisions they make for themselves.
Many times it hurts when people make decisions that hurt us. They leave us behind. Sometimes we leave them behind. But I feel that sometimes, believing in love and kindness — respecting the situation and accepting it the way it comes — is what matters.
Overall, I feel relationship with ourselves also needs a binding factor.
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## How We Judge Each Other’s Relationships
When I speak about relationships, people have often advised me a lot of things. And I have seen around me many examples.
I have seen people getting irritated because of certain relations and people, and the reasons for this irritation vary. I have even seen people who got irritated when I said, “Let them stay at our place today because it’s too late.” To which I got the answer: “No, let them go. It’s their life. I don’t want anyone.” And I have seen people around who have issues with people for no reasons, or for very tiny reasons.
This, in general, makes me rethink every relationship around me.
People have called me open-minded, bold, or sometimes modern because of my thoughts or the way I process things — because I choose to see people as whole instead of their flaws, instead of their faults, past, or mistakes. As I said, love is the answer, and kindness and respect must follow it. Then life becomes easier.
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The Hidden Agendas
People who choose a relationship for a hidden agenda are so interesting. I have come across a few who like people or their partners because they have something that is either materialistic or god-gifted — for example, money, fancy cars, lavish lifestyles, or looks and personality. Neither of them are assured for a lifetime.
Though people thinking about a stable life, good income, and happiness because of that are not wrong — I do respect them as well. But maybe sometimes that makes me wonder: what is their binding factor? Maybe it’s plastic.
And maybe that relationship will have the same level of assurance.
I don’t say these people are completely ruthless or selfish. Everyone comes from different backgrounds and situations, which makes them think in a certain way. But sometimes I feel: what about those people or relationships where people have partners with some kind of disability?
People often tag that as sympathy. Or I have seen people around who have views saying: if one is disabled, then let them find someone similar — at least they will have some partner. Is that being pitiful towards them? Or what? I really don’t know.
Or why does equality matter so much here? That, I still wonder.
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The Blind Couple
A few days ago, I was walking on a street and saw a blind couple sitting on the roadside, selling something. I have seen them twice or thrice.
The first time I saw them, I was stuck in traffic. The traffic was so heavy that I was in the same place for almost twenty minutes. I saw them pack their mini stall, get up, and start walking. The woman was ahead, and the man kept his hand on her shoulder and walked behind. They looked so happy together.
Looking at them, I felt lost. I believed love exists.
The second time I saw them, they were selling something and listening to the radio. They were present. They were together. They were happy.
Sometimes you don’t care about disabilities. What matters is love. Looking at them, I understood: their binding factor is love, followed by respect and happiness.
That is what love looks like.
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What Real Love Is
Love. Love. Love is not exhausting. It shouldn’t leave you free to go and find out stresses.
As the days pass, love silently takes the place of habit. When love is lost, automatically stress enters without a single knock. Because slowly we start considering our partner, and then without our own permission, “Why? How could you?” questions come up in every conversation.
Love should be a free spirit. It should be appreciated.
Love can’t be routine of your daily life. Love can’t keep you depressed.
Loving someone is a blessed feeling only when it’s with the right person.
Real love will always give you strength. It makes you stronger. It will never break you.
Author’s Note: Love is not commercial. Love is not plastic. Love is two people walking together, one hand on the other’s shoulder, listening to the radio, completely present. Love is a free spirit that strengthens you. That is enough. That is everything.
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